GUILT- the Insidious and Persistent Obstacle to Happiness and Fulfillment

How are you doing these days in manifesting that beautiful dream of yours? 

Many people I work with, say they don’t know what they want…while others have a dream they would love to create and manifest. Sometimes they struggle to make it happen, often coming away feeling disappointed when things don’t go the way they would like. Then in letting go of the disappointment, they let go of the dream and become disbelievers, posing disempowering questions such as, why do others have all the luck? Why can’t I have what I want? Maybe I don’t have what it takes…

            Maybe deep down inside we often don’t believe we deserve… love, fulfillment, happiness, success. We judge our desires harshly as if we didn’t have the right to have them. Perhaps unconsciously we radiate fear, in the form of anger, jealousy, or victimization; these feelings are always fueled by the ego’s nefarious messenger, guilt… guilt for the selfishness of our desires, or fear of possible failure for stepping into a place of power. The loud, invective inner voice of criticism shouts, ”Who are you to step up and go for what you want? What makes you so deserving?” 

            This inner victimizer is particularly strong for people who have suffered belittlement, shaming, powerlessness and abuse in all forms, which doesn’t leave a lot of unscathed, fortunate individuals since we’ve all suffered shaming and guilt trips of one kind or another. This is unfortunately the way of the world, from families right down to religious organizations, who use guilt and fear to get us to tow the proverbial “party line” and do as we are told.

·        What if our birthright were to live happy, fulfilled, powerful lives, and we have actually been born to realize a life purpose that only we can embody.

·        What if desire was something to celebrate, to motivate us to grow and evolve, nature’s very calling… evolution, growth and development?

·        What if desires actually lead us along a path to fulfilling life purpose and there is no need to judge them, nor reason to give into the illusion of unworthiness or undeserving?

What if the inner critic we all have, is merely a messenger of the ego’s teaching of fear and guilt, designed to keep us small and in line? Have you ever noticed how loud and persistent it can be? “I fear the lady doth protest too much, me thinks…” (Hamlet)

      So let us not bow down to aggressive, demeaning voices of guilt and fear in whatever form they take in our lives. If you’ve put your dream on hold, I challenge you to bring it back to the forefront and learn to tell the baying hounds of unworthiness that they are full of……..(whatever invective feels right-you choose)!

If this feels a little daunting, like what if it’s true I'm not worthy or up to whatever it is I want, then perhaps you need a little practice in believing seemingly impossible things. (The queen in Lewis Carroll’s Alice in Wonderland said, “I always believed in at least 6 impossible things before breakfast…”)

     

 It takes awareness and practice, and a group of like-minded people helps; I invite you to join me and other courageous, ready-to-create dream manifesters, November 19^th and December 3^rd for my eye-opening online workshop, Guilt to Q.U.I.L.T.: Living Freely and Fully to help you speak up to that persistent, nefarious voice that tries to run the show in your personal, professional or overall life, called GUILT.

       

There’s no reason to abandon your dreams and no reason to let the intrusive, untruthful voice of your small self, lead you away from fulfilment and true happiness. Join us two Wednesdays for 1 and1/2 hours each. It’s easy, online and a powerful investment in your own power, happiness and fulfilment! Carpe Diem!

For more information or to register please visit www.inner-discovery.com; click on  “online workshops”. 

Abigail DeSoto
Transformational Coach & Psychosynthesis Guide, Teacher/Author

http://www.inner-discovery.com
 

http://innerdiscovery.blogspot.fr/

 

author/‘Nom de plume’- Olivia de Gage, L'Amour Déraisonné: Reclaiming Self, Transformational Teachings from Psychosynthesis and A Course in Miracles (2010) Psychosynthesis Press
http://www.amazon.com/LAmour-Deraisonne-Reclaiming-Olivia-DeGage/dp/0961144475